October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month - a fact that you need to know now, what with pink appear everywhere from the supermarket in candy transition to professional football (pink cleats, anyone?)
But did you know, October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month? It is estimated one out of four women experience domestic violence in any form - physical, emotional, economic, sexual or psychological - in their lifetimes.
Unfortunately, women who had breast cancer treatment is not immune to these statistics. Are you abused - or know someone who is? What can you do about it?
"Domestic violence? I do not."
It sounds so ... violent, right? When you hear the word, you probably think of a man beating his wife, a bruised face and broken bones.
An injunction by the police.
But domestic violence has many forms. And often it is not suitable, our internal definition of the word "violence".
It can be as quiet and subtle as a gentle word: "No!"
No, you can not have the money you made to the hair. No, I will not let you, the movies with your so-called best friend Melissa go, she's an idiot. No, you're not at that part-time job at the library, I want you to be home with the children.
Each time your partner tries to control you in ways you do not want to be controlled - that is domestic violence (also known as domestic violence). He / she must not lift a finger against you. Sometimes words do the work, sometimes a bank account.
And sometimes the abuse is not yours, but directed their children - because the perpetrators know, you hurt your child is more painful than to hurt you directly.
Equipped diagnosed with breast cancer may worsen an already abusive situation. If control of the purse is to exercise the power is used, then it would make sense in the perpetrator's head to make money for the little extras, the treatment of cancer bearable withhold (a wig, special underwear), if not for the treatment itself.
When a woman loses her job back or cut working hours due to cancer, they may be feeling weak from their perpetrators.
The perpetrator can be a bad conscience, be paid to the survivors, just as she is at her lowest, both physically and emotionally. "Wimp I know many people who still have worse cancer than you and work through it right. You just have to lie all day anyway. same way you could keep you out there deserve. "
And what about the perpetrators, the focus on "feminine appeal" forces, his or her partner to wear "sexy" clothes - both in bed and out of it?
Do you think bald and looked like death warmed up to that person the desire to satisfy his partner tries to control? On the contrary, it is likely to provoke outbursts - perhaps leading to physical abuse.
Breast cancer is stressful for the whole family, not just the woman in treatment. Any cracks in a normal relationship may be broken in, threatening to expand to engulf the whole family.
Sometimes the partners are healthy just can not handle the whole experience, and leaves.
But unfortunately most of the time - he / she remains.
In an abusive relationship desertion is less likely to happen, the perpetrator uses his partner's weakness as a way to screw the level and frequency of abuse. The victim can not defend more literally.
If you are a war on two fronts - cancer and an abusive partner - it can feel like your world is over. And maybe, sometimes, you would wish.
But there is help out there for you - whether the violence you are physically, emotionally or financially.
If you have suffered from abuse of any kind, breast cancer can be the impetus you need to get help. If you are in hospital for treatment, ask for a social worker to speak privately, without your partner made aware of your request. Social workers are trained in dealing with all kinds of abuse and can help you take the steps you afraid or not willing to take have.
If you are more comfortable providing information online, the Avon Foundation for Women, was founded over 50 years, is dedicated to improving and saving the lives of women. Avon is active on three fronts: breast cancer, domestic violence and emergency and disaster relief. Goes through various fundraisers, Avon has raised and donated more than $ 800 million to help women around the world in crisis.
Avon website contains links to a number of resources for battered women, teens and children. A chief link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which includes a "quick escape" button - click on the button, if your perpetrator enters the room suddenly, and the Web page will be replaced by a simple Google homepage.
Abuse and violence can ruin your life. You are treated almost certain to get rid of cancer, why not take steps to get rid of an abusive relationship at the same time?
The life you save may be your own.
But did you know, October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month? It is estimated one out of four women experience domestic violence in any form - physical, emotional, economic, sexual or psychological - in their lifetimes.
Unfortunately, women who had breast cancer treatment is not immune to these statistics. Are you abused - or know someone who is? What can you do about it?
"Domestic violence? I do not."
It sounds so ... violent, right? When you hear the word, you probably think of a man beating his wife, a bruised face and broken bones.
An injunction by the police.
But domestic violence has many forms. And often it is not suitable, our internal definition of the word "violence".
It can be as quiet and subtle as a gentle word: "No!"
No, you can not have the money you made to the hair. No, I will not let you, the movies with your so-called best friend Melissa go, she's an idiot. No, you're not at that part-time job at the library, I want you to be home with the children.
Each time your partner tries to control you in ways you do not want to be controlled - that is domestic violence (also known as domestic violence). He / she must not lift a finger against you. Sometimes words do the work, sometimes a bank account.
And sometimes the abuse is not yours, but directed their children - because the perpetrators know, you hurt your child is more painful than to hurt you directly.
Equipped diagnosed with breast cancer may worsen an already abusive situation. If control of the purse is to exercise the power is used, then it would make sense in the perpetrator's head to make money for the little extras, the treatment of cancer bearable withhold (a wig, special underwear), if not for the treatment itself.
When a woman loses her job back or cut working hours due to cancer, they may be feeling weak from their perpetrators.
The perpetrator can be a bad conscience, be paid to the survivors, just as she is at her lowest, both physically and emotionally. "Wimp I know many people who still have worse cancer than you and work through it right. You just have to lie all day anyway. same way you could keep you out there deserve. "
And what about the perpetrators, the focus on "feminine appeal" forces, his or her partner to wear "sexy" clothes - both in bed and out of it?
Do you think bald and looked like death warmed up to that person the desire to satisfy his partner tries to control? On the contrary, it is likely to provoke outbursts - perhaps leading to physical abuse.
Breast cancer is stressful for the whole family, not just the woman in treatment. Any cracks in a normal relationship may be broken in, threatening to expand to engulf the whole family.
Sometimes the partners are healthy just can not handle the whole experience, and leaves.
But unfortunately most of the time - he / she remains.
In an abusive relationship desertion is less likely to happen, the perpetrator uses his partner's weakness as a way to screw the level and frequency of abuse. The victim can not defend more literally.
If you are a war on two fronts - cancer and an abusive partner - it can feel like your world is over. And maybe, sometimes, you would wish.
But there is help out there for you - whether the violence you are physically, emotionally or financially.
If you have suffered from abuse of any kind, breast cancer can be the impetus you need to get help. If you are in hospital for treatment, ask for a social worker to speak privately, without your partner made aware of your request. Social workers are trained in dealing with all kinds of abuse and can help you take the steps you afraid or not willing to take have.
If you are more comfortable providing information online, the Avon Foundation for Women, was founded over 50 years, is dedicated to improving and saving the lives of women. Avon is active on three fronts: breast cancer, domestic violence and emergency and disaster relief. Goes through various fundraisers, Avon has raised and donated more than $ 800 million to help women around the world in crisis.
Avon website contains links to a number of resources for battered women, teens and children. A chief link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which includes a "quick escape" button - click on the button, if your perpetrator enters the room suddenly, and the Web page will be replaced by a simple Google homepage.
Abuse and violence can ruin your life. You are treated almost certain to get rid of cancer, why not take steps to get rid of an abusive relationship at the same time?
The life you save may be your own.
